Monday, 12 February 2018

10 Of My Positivity Habits ๐Ÿ’—

Recently I have noticed that when I am not feeling myself or I am feeling 'low' I have been automatically reverting to the same actions as a force of habit. You are probably thinking these are bad habits but actually, they are amazing.

I have mentioned before, 2017 was a big year in looking after myself, with help I have learnt how to look at things different and re-train my mind. One thing I do love about myself is that I always want to be my best self and continuously grow as a person. 
I have learnt that I tend to dwell on negative points a lot longer than positive ones. I know many people are like this but my dwelling was taking over my happiness. 

My down days were outweighing my good days and it would lead to me not working, socialising or sometimes even leaving my room. I would then think about how much a 'waste of space' I was and how at 21 I should be in my prime and living my life. That would sink me deeper into my hole and my 'down' days would turn into a week or more. 
Like I said, last year I learnt a lot and realising my thought patterns was a huge game changer. Taking a step back and tracking what triggered my drop in mood helped a lot. I would make a mental note so if I was ever in that situation again I would not let it hit me like it did before. 

Sometimes feeling down is uncontrollable, we're human, we are going to have down days and it's healthy to go through the motions but it's making sure a down day doesn't turn into a week or more. 
Sometimes when I was on a low spell I would get frustrated with myself and think 
"For God sake, Brooke pull yourself together" 

I tried so many things to up my mood and by doing this I realised what works for me and what doesn't. 
Then if I felt any self-doubt or lack of self-confidence I would go back to these actions that upped my mood and squashed the negativity in my mind before I could dwell on it. I did this so often they have now become a habit that I do without even thinking. 

So just in case you get low moments I wanted to share my 'positivity habits' as they might work for you like they do for me!   

I love to go on Pinterest and search for really good quotes. What is also amazing on Pinterest is when you search the word 'Quote' countless subgenres come up so you can focus what you want it to be about. I love to read quotes that are specifically about what caused me to be upset as it gets the insecurity directly. For example, if wake up feeling down I will read quotes about early morning motivation. I then feel a rush of motivation to get up and win the day! 

I know everyone says this and I am guilty of rolling my eyes when I hear someone say it but it is true, exercise boosts your mood. I honestly could not see how because I have never enjoyed exercise until I started having personal training sessions. Going the gym and achieving a hard work out or a personal best on something gave me so much energy and I would come home on such a high. I would come back from the gym a completely different person to who left the house that morning. 
You do not need a gym membership to do this though, you can go for a walk, go trampolining, bike ride, anything! Just get that heart rate up even if its just a bit, sometimes its just nice to get fresh air. 

Again find what works for you, for example, I HATE running so when I am in a low mood the last thing I am going to do is go for a 30min run on a treadmill whereas my boyfriend loves it. Just find what you enjoy and it might take doing it a few times as well to realise you enjoy it. I love weights as it makes me feel powerful and strong, something that I have been told many times in my lifetime that I am not.  Even if I am lifting the lightest weight in the gym that fact I am there and doing it boosts my mood. 

My household can be very hectic. I live at home with my parents and boyfriend. My mum and I both work from home within the beauty industry, so we have clients come in and out the house all day 6 days a week. My mum works extremely long hours and can have her first client at 8am and last at 9pm. My boyfriend is on shift work, on one week he will leave at 12 and get home for 10.30pm then the next week he will leave at 6am and get home for 4.30pm as well as having commitments outside of work for example rugby.   
People are constantly in and out of our house and when I am trying to film or work on my blogging it can be incredibly distracting and frustrating. 
Another thing I have found is working from home can sometimes mean you don't leave the house all week ๐Ÿ˜ 
Everyone's household is different and to some, it can be your place to chill and have alone time but mine is not that place! ๐Ÿ˜‚ 
When I am feeling overwhelmed, I need to step away from what is causing me to feel that way so I go out. Leaving the house to sometimes go shopping or to see a movie takes me out of the hectic situation re-gather my thoughts and go back home with a level head. 
Don't get me wrong I love my home and on the rare occasion that I'm home alone it feels weird and I eventually really hate it! 

If you are in a similar situation take your self away from what is weighing you down for a while to then come back with a fresher mindset. This could also relate to being online, studying, a person or so much more. Sometimes what makes it frustrating is the fact you know you can't avoid it so having breaks now and then helps a lot! 

This is so simple but so many of us don't do it as often as we should. Matt and I LOVE movies and go to the cinema at least once a week! We ended up getting a cinema loyalty card and we have saved so much money in the long term. Whatever you love doing make time for it, do it at least once a week. It could be having a pampering bath, adult colouring, going for a meal, swimming, honestly anything you love no matter how small! 

What I have found amazingly useful is learning about how the brain works and I don't mean in a biological sense! Learning behavioural patterns by watching youtube videos or reading up on how the mind works helps you react better and take control of your outlook on anything. I have recently been loving TedxTalks on youtube, there are endless amounts of videos on endless amounts of subjects. It really opens your mind and makes you think differently. Here are some of my favourites!

How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

Ever since I was young I would turn to music to boost my mood without even knowing it. If I would argue with my parents or friends I would listen to music straight away, back then I think I just did it so no one would talk to me with my headphones on but it would really change my mood. 
I LOVE music and find it so difficult not to dance and sing along when in public! 
I love to dance as I danced from the age of 3 to 15, I wasn't amazing at it I just loved it! 
I regularly have a dance and a sing-song in my room on my own, that is when I am my happiest, so sometimes when I feel down I force myself to and in under a minute I am buzzing ๐Ÿ˜†
What is also good to listen to is motivational speeches to get you pumped up and ready for the day!

Here are my favourite mood lifting Apple Music playlists ๐Ÿ’—

Girl Power Hour

Laughter is the best medicine! forcing yourself to laugh might sound strange but it does boost your mood! If you don't want to just sit in in your room and laugh to yourself (what is understandable lol) watch a funny tv show or youtuber, just something that takes your mind off what is stressing you out.
I love to watch Shane Dawson, Imogenation, Jackie Aina and so many more youtubers that crack me up every time!
TV shows I love are Bob's Burgers, Family Guy, RuPaul's Drag Race ect. 
My family are also hilarious, sometimes they don't mean to be but they just are ๐Ÿ˜‚ So spending time with my family and friends helps me relax. 

Talking to someone about what is on your mind is so important, like the saying goes 
"A problem shared is a problem halved"  
Getting a second opinion can help rationalise things as well as show you other possibilities.
So talk about all your stresses and problems but when you've finished talk about all the positives and what you are grateful for. As amazing talking about your problems is, you don't want to then dwell on them, talking about positive things in your life daily is not gloating either, it is being grateful and positive. 

I only really read books when I am on holiday and then I will read about 3 in 2 weeks. Recently I have been trying to read at home before bed to try and get away from electronics so I sleep better. Self-help books are incredible and there is so many out there on so many subjects it's near enough impossible to not find one that will help you. If you are not much of a reader then you could try out audiobooks or podcasts or even read online self-help bloggers! 

This is one of the biggest things that works for me. My anxiety really kicks off when I have a lot of things on my plate or that I need to do. I realised at night I would be trying to figure out what I had to do the next day and try and organise it somehow in my head. As you can imagine I got no sleep and would be so overwhelmed that it was actually counterproductive.     
I am now a professional list writer. I have notepads full of them, notes on my phone, sticky notes, calendars, you name it I have it.
I now don't have to try and organise things in my head, visually seeing what I have to do also stops me getting overwhelmed. Plus I don't know anything more satisfying than crossing things off a list (I'm weird I know but it works!)

I hope this helps you in any way and remember...

If you have any Positivity Habits yourself let me know!
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  1. trying to figure out what I had to do the next day

  2. People may forget what you said. They may forget what you did. But they will never forget how you made them feel. I wonder what you would say about movies already, how they affect a person?


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